Why Calmbirth® Rocks

Yesterday there was a knock at the door.

It was a Dad who had attended my Calmbirth® classes with his wife a couple of months ago.

This man was beaming.

He had come from the nearby hospital to the share the glorious news of the birth of his son.

I hugged him, and I felt my heart swell. I felt so happy to hear this news.

The birth of a baby is always wonderful news, but this one was pretty special. When I first met this couple they were fearful as their previous baby was stillborn. There were a lot of complex emotions around this pregnancy and birth.

I watched this couple bravely take steps towards planning for their birth during the classes, and I witnessed them change a little. Their body language changed, they let go of some of their fear, and they re-focussed and prepared for this birth.

By the end of the weekend they were openly sharing their story, and there was a sense of optimism about their future.

Please forgive me if I say so, but I have the #bestjob in the world.

Blessingway: a powerful and empowering celebration of an imminent birth

The upcoming birth of a baby heralds much excitment and many cultures have traditions to celebrate this. 

You will have heard of, and possibly have attended, a baby shower where, generally, female friends and relatives of the mother shower her with gifts for her baby. Other cultures focus on the needs of the mother during the later stages of her pregnancy, her transition into motherhood and her preparation for birth.

One such tradition which is becoming an increasingly popular alternative to a baby shower is a Blessingway.

A Blessingway - or Mother Blessing - draws from a traditional Navajo ceremony. The ceremony is (usually) a gathering of women - a ‘women’s circle’ - that involves a variety of rituals to honour the pregnant woman, providing love and positive energy to encourage and support her preparation for birth, and allow her to receive all the positive female energy being offered. The ceremony is designed to reflect the wishes of the mother.

Birth stock photos – does a picture tell a thousand words?

This blog thing is pretty new to me. I am enjoying it, and I like it when all the fragments come together. The aesthetics of a blog are also important to me. It’s very satisfying to find the perfect image to accompany the piece.

Like my work, my blogs are mostly about birth, babies and parenting – nothing too unusual, and yet the available ‘stock’ photos of birth disturbingly misrepresent normal birth. It is near impossible to find realistic photos that reflect what occurs and what I see at births. I am trying to work out why…

Yes - I do get that birth is a private experience, and most women probably don’t want to put their vaginas on the internet (well, some are quite keen to, but that’s a whole other story…!).

However, with the increasing popularity of professional birth photography, I am surprised that there are not more realistic images of births out there – or even ‘fake’ photos at least trying to fairly accurately mimic ‘real’ birth scenarios.